Hi! I must say, I was very excited to see that thenotmom finally created a forum! Since finding the website several months ago, I've been hoping for a more interactive experience with others who can understand this (pretty huge) aspect of my life. I am 33 years old, married to my high school sweetheart for 10 years, and childfree. This is the first time in the last four years I have felt comfortable using "childree" as opposed to "childless" to describe our lives. While in our twenties, my husband and I were both pretty anti-kids, but as we were married longer and saw our friends starting their families, something stirred in us (mostly me) and we decided to try for a baby of our own. Four years, tons of tests, meds, and fertility treatments, three unsuccessful pregnancies, and countless tears, frustrations, and angry fists shaken at the sky later, we have come to terms with not having children. Adoption was never an option either of us considered, so when the challenges of having our own child became too much to continue to take on, we stopped. For the first time in years, it felt like we were taking back control of our lives and our future. The old feeling of being "anti-kid" have come back and we're both looking forward to the next chapter of our lives that will include a new house with a pool and maybe a dog, to compliment the things we already enjoyed doing; traveling, playing rec league sports, waking up early to workout, and basically doing whatever we want, whenever we want. Living in a smaller town in the south makes it challenging to find others in our situation, so being able to forge a connection with other childfree couples would be refreshing!
Aug 17, 2017