I'm 37 years old. I was told at 35 that my eggs are "no good" and we should look into egg donors or adoption at this point. What people dont seem to talk about in real life, or on these things, is HOW MUCH THAT COSTS.... for us "childless" people, adoption cost realistically, around $30,000, egg donership even more. That's if you can fathom birthing a child that may have some of your husband's characteristics, but none of yours (unless acquired by nurture vs. nature). So, let's say, as I did, that you choose to stay out of some pretty serious debt (as, I'm assuming, if you're in this forum, most of us have an original loan to try to get pregnant to begin with.)
It's important to note that I dont feel that I'm bitter about my situation any longer, though, so far, in this post it may seem that I am. I just have a big problem with how women our age throw out the old "How many kids do you have?" question, as if it's only possible that you have at least one, if not more by this age. They ask this question as if they truly want the answer. When I say none... they ALWAYS ask a follow-up question, of "Why not?", again, as if they want the answer... to those of us that must answer or attempt to answer this question, it's a decision... do I want this person to pity me, or disdain me. If you say (even though it has taken you YEARS of therapy and anti depression medication) that you just don't feel that it's in God's plan for you and that your husband and you have decided not to have them, they look at you as if you are going against the very reason for your existence, (as if you dont ALREADY feel that way). Or you could go the " We tried, and God blessed me with many things, and children was not one of them." This always seems to lead to a pathetic, as empathetic as they can muster face that says, " You poor, poor, sad, pitiful soul, whatever will you do with your life?". The question you've asked yourself every moment since then... Am I the only one who feels this way?