I discovered I had started menopause at the age of 36. I was unaware that this trait ran in my family. At the time, I was working in marketing and sales, and made the decision almost immediately that I wanted to do something more constructive with my life. An off-the-cuff comment by a friend set me in a new direction: "You'd make a great secondary school teacher!" I went back to University, gained my teaching qualification, and started out as a classroom teacher. I can't say that I've never looked back, because I have. But, I have discovered ifs and buts and maybes are not much use. True, there is no-one in this world that calls me "Mum", but I've had the privilege of being an important part of the lives of many teenagers. The first students I taught are now having children of their own, which gives me pause. But, I continue to make the effort to be the woman I am, not fighting against what could have been. Nowadays, I'm a tutor, with a cosy office and a worthwhile job. No complaints.