Hello fellow childfree women, how do you deal with the jealousy and smart aleck remarks that come from women coworkers or aquaintances that have kids? The fact that all of my money is my own as well as my free time has infuriated quite a few of my previous coworkers to the point where I have been sabotaged a few times at work. The most extreme case has been these miserable women working hard to get me fired from a few jobs. I always find a new job because I have a degree and a great resume, but it's a tough pill to swallow when jealous people work hard to bring you down. How do you all cope? Do any of you have similar stories here? I'd love to hear about them if you don't mind sharing please!
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kcushing412
Apr 1, 2019
Dealing With Jealousy
Dealing With Jealousy
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Wow! Personally, I haven't dealt with anything that extreme. What you're experiencing is not jealousy, it's workplace bullying. Frankly, getting someone fired because they've made a different life choice seems like a lot of work. These women are petty and probably didn't realize they had the choice to be child free too. You have the right to feel comfortable an confident at work. Maybe these women would have more free time if they stopped worrying about other people's personal choices.
I do know how jealous other people can get though. I've learned to accept that some people find my life genuinely offensive, almost as if my choice is somehow a personal attack on them and their children. I've learned to not talk about my personal life much at work. Even when I'm asked direct questions, I tend to downplay how happy and enjoyable my life is for fear of offending anyone. Still, I occasionally receive comments like, "must be nice to have so much free time" or "I could never do that, I have a child."
I'm sure you don't flaunt your peaceful, childfree life in front of your coworkers. And yes, it's frustrating to feel like you can't say anything about your life.I'd love to know more about your situation. These women sound like absolute savages. Have you been able to speak to HR? Have they been able to do anything? Please keep me posted on this situation, women like this have no place in the workforce.
Agree totally with FamilyofMe. What you're describing may constitute a hostile working environment (google it to see the legal requirements) and you could actually take legal action if it's bad enough that their behaviour makes doing your job impossible (dependent on your local laws of course). Unless these women manage you, I'd be talking to my manager to address the issues as it sounds entirely unprofessional. They wouldn't tolerate it from a male employee, why should the women get the go ahead to act like that?
In regards to being let go, most states including mine, are at-will states which means anyone can be let for from a job at any time for any reason. It is up to the person that was fired to prove they were wrongfully terminated or discriminated against. I personally cannot afford a lawyer to sue these companies for letting me go nor can I prove it was jealousy that got me fired. Yes, it sucks and it is not fair, but it is terrifying what jealous people can do to others to bring them down.