I am so glad to have found this forum of like minded people.
I am 33 years old and childless by choice.
I have been married for 3 years to my boyfriend.
I love kids but just don't feel the maternal instincts to have my own.
I feel a lot of pressure from my husband and inlaws and even friends to have kids.Recently the pressure has increased and I just feel depressed because I have no one to discuss these issues with.
They just don't seem to understand my lack of desire to have kids.
My husband is worried that all our friends will become busy with their own lives and kids and without kids we would become lonely.He worries about being lonely in old age.
I admit this worry plagues me too sometimes but then I see around me and find people being alone in old age even after having kids.I don't believe having kids is the solution to avoiding loneliness in old age.
Seeing everyone around me have kids does sometime plant the seed of doubt in my mind.
But I love my freedom and don't see myself making the adjustments and sacrifices motherhood requires.
I fear as more of our friends have kids my husband would feel more strongly about having kids and I am not sure how to deal with it.
I wish I could make him see how having kids would not be a good choice for us.
We are from different religions and his parents are too interfering and very dominant in his life.
Having kids would also mean we would loose complete control of our lives and give free ticket to his parents to interfere even more.
Our views on how children should be raised doesn't match either so if we have kids we would probably end up fighting.
I love the life and freedom as a couple that we have currently.
I would love to hear the opinions of other child free people and if not having kids really makes life that lonely as society paints it to be.