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I'm new too! Having a website like this is amazing and helps me stay strong about my decision. So much pushback by movies, tv, and news that we need a sanctuary almost. helps to surround yourself with like minded individuals ;)

I am loving these forums. So refreshing!!!

Hello, I just subscribed!

I was looking for sites to give a collaboration, with my non-child life surrounded by friends moms. Everybody ask me WHY NOT HAVE A CHILD? And I answer it is a question: Why do you have to have children?! I am from Brazil. living in Collierville, TN for 5 years, and married with a town boy, redneck, sweetie and cleaning OCD! My life, now, is a mess! He has 3 kids and 4 grandkids, and I am very, very happy to don't have that obligation to give him a baby! Yay!

I am always told you would be a great mom, you should have kids, and when these individuals are telling me this it is followed by their own complaints such as I don't have any time to do what I want to do because I have to do X for their children. So why would I want to have kids so I can be miserable with you! My husband and I decided not to have children of our own because we love our get up and go life style! I can be reminded of our great choice we made that fits our life and desires anytime we go out to dinner with friends and the conversations are always around their children and not about the couple as adults or individuals. When we return home we often find ourselves asking each other when did so and so stop being themselves. I get it having children changes your life but it shouldn't change you! I am hoping to make friends here that understand I just don't want children and to accept that fact because it is a part of who I am.

Im new also. welcome sister

Hi Ladies! I'm new, as well. So great to be part of this community!

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Hi all! I'm Judy and brand new here after reading an article about this blog in the New York Times. Over the past 40 years, I lived all over the country for my career and retired last year. I heard the same thing wherever I lived -- that I would have made a great mother. No, I wouldn't because I never wanted to be responsible for anyone but myself. People don't know how to respond because they aren't used to hearing this. (Ironically, my brother also chose to be child-free but doesn't get these comments.)

Now, the joke is on me because my mother, who is 89 years old, has early stage dementia. So now the roles are reversed. She is more and more becoming the child and I am expected to be the mother. She lives at an excellent long term care facility who takes care of her every need. But I find for the first time ever, I am attempting to make decisions and do things I was not cut out for. I remind my mom that I may be a wonderful daughter (which she reminds me all the time) but I make a lousy aide. I do not possess the "caregiver gene" or whatever you want to call it. Are there other baby boomer child-free women out there who find themselves in this situation?