I'm new to the forum. I'm 35, newly married, and for the past few years I have grappled with the difficult decision of whether or not I want children. My husband and I are very happy with our current lifestyle. We love traveling, lazy weekends, and the many benefits of being childfree (financial ease, schedule flexibility, and having time and energy to focus on our careers guilt-free).
The main struggle that I still deal with is that I have an overwhelming need to care for and nurture *something*. We have several pets, but I don't feel that is enough. We don't live close to any family. We recently moved and I am looking into getting more involved with my community by volunteering with a local charity that focuses on children with special needs. I love spending time with kids (in limited time increments), so I hope this may help.
Some days I wonder if feeling the lack of a nurturing outlet is my body's way of telling me it wants a child... yet it seems like a huge gamble to have a child just because of this. I'm curious if any of you feel the same way, and how you fulfill the need to nurture?