Hi, I'm an only child, I just celebrated my 1 year anniversary with my husband. Since the age of 9 I've been pretty isolated from the rest of my family, my parents moved us from Mississippi to Texas and I ended up spending the rest of my childhood looking to fill the void with friend groups. It was tough, but I was able to get through that, and build lots of friendships over the years.
I'm lucky that my husband's family is so welcoming and understanding of who I am as a person, I say this because my parents are not as understanding. A few years ago I had confided in my mother and told her that I didn't think that motherhood was for me. She told me I was selfish, and that not having children was evil and cried for the next few hours.
Per true dysfunctional family form, we had basically brushed that incident under the rug until the weeks before my wedding when we took a mother-daughter trip, I once again confided that I do not have a desire to have children, I also told her that my religious beliefs had changed and I no longer shared her views. She basically told me that she would have enough faith for the both of us and would pray that I'd be fixed, this was followed by more crying.
And now, after the first year of marriage, the pressure is starting to mount, most of my cousins have children, and my mom has an insatiable need to be connected to a big family, I can feel her heart break whenever she visits my cousins and gets to spend time with their new babies. My husband is amazingly supportive and wonderful, he respects me and my choices, but somehow I still feel so alone. I don't know why there is so much pressure put on women to want to be mothers. I was wondering if any other only children or if anyone had any advice for how to deal with parents pressuring you to have children.
thanks for listening to my story