What will my child-free future be like?
As 25 year old child-free woman, my decision is rarely taken seriously. When strangers or acquaintances ask that deeply personal question, "Do you want children?" my completely honest answer is dismissed with, "Oh, you'll change your mind". I've gotten into the habit of lying and answering with "Oh I don't know", or "Who knows? Maybe someday". I hate that I feel so inclined to lie, but it does save me from a slew of other, equally uncomfortable questions. You all know the ones I'm talking about:
Does your mom know?
Does your boyfriend want kids?
What if your future spouse wants kids?
Who will take care of you when you're old?
Don't you want a family?
The list goes on...
What I want to know is, will these questions go away as I age? Will people stop asking me these questions and accept my choice? Or, will they be replaced with other intrusive questions like, "Do you regret not having kids?" Will people stop making assumptions about how much free time or how much money I have?
But most importantly, I want to know how I will change over time. I know it's impossible for anyone to speak for anyone else, but for women who have made it past childbearing age, how have you felt about your choice over the years? Was there ever a moment when you doubted your decision? Was there ever a time when life felt difficult because of your child-free choice? Were there things you wish you had done differently?
I apologize if these questions seem intrusive. I'm asking because, despite what others tell me, I feel very secure in my choice and have a genuine curiosity about the future. I anticipate an exciting and fulfilling life and want to hear from others who have lived similar lives.