A group of women were talking about their children and one of them suddenly approached me and asked if I had children. Of course the answer was no, but she said "don't worry, the right guy will come along and they'll be here before you know it". Seriously? So, here was my response. "I have no plans for kids and am currently dating a guy who also doesn't want kids".
With what looked like a mixture of shock and skepticism, she replied "I wish I had had that option, I got pregnant my first time". This statement was baffling to me. By saying "her first time", it didn't seem like she was raped (the scenario that would prevent the option of not becoming pregnant) and what would prevent her from choosing to date a guy who didn't want kids? Part of me wanted to argue these points about her own options, but it didn't seem to be worth it and she already had a ton of kids, so it was kind of moot anyways. She was not the first one that I have heard say that. Can someone enlighten me? What does it even mean when they say that they wish that they had had that option? I mean, were they kidnapped and forced into slavery? Were they under contract to breed? Actually, I have had women also tell me that they were "coerced" into child bearing. Why? Wouldn't something like that be illegal? I don't get it. Now granted,I am a hardcore feminist. So much so, that even other feminists hate me, LOL. But seriously, I just can't imagine being forced into anything regarding a life decision.