Meghan Daum, 2015 Guggenheim fellow, author, and editor of Selfish, Shallow & Self-Absorbed: Sixteen Writers On The Decision Not To Have Kids:

“I was deeply moved by my experience at the NotMom Summit in the fall of 2015. I wasn’t sure what to expect, but I was genuinely impressed and also reminded again just how significant a demographic this is and how it’s too often underrepresented in mainstream culture. Last year, I published a book called Selfish, Shallow & Self-Absorbed: Sixteen Writers on the Decision Not to Have Kids. It featured personal stories from a wide range of men and women, some who’d always known they didn’t want to be parents and some who came to the decision later in life after a deep and painstaking reckoning. 

“When I first proposed the book to publishers, I was told that the audience for such a book was small, that this was a “niche” project and that they applauded my mission but didn’t expect big sales. As it turned out (and as I’d long suspected), the book was a huge success. Not only did it garner an enormous amount of publicity and enthusiasm, it became a New York Times Bestseller and was a guiding force in a growing conversation about life choices and the validity of choosing not to have kids. I don’t think a day goes by that I don’t hear from someone (often in places in the world where such choices are frowned upon if not downright punished) telling me how much they appreciate this conversation and hope it becomes more normalized and accepted.

“The NotMom Summit is an important part of this discussion. The women I met there came from all over the world and approached the issue from many different perspectives. But what united them was a commitment to being true to themselves, a genuine concern for humanity and the environment, and and respect for their friends and family members who are parents. As I’ve said time and again when I talk about my book, parents and non-parents are not adversaries but partners in cultivating a better world. Gatherings like The NotMom Summit are an invaluable resource.”

Marjorie Greenfield MD, Obstetrics and Gynecology, Case Western Reserve University School of Medicine/MacDonald Women’s Hospital/University Hospitals Cleveland Medical Center:

“I attended this meeting as a speaker, talking about medical aspects of not having children. I didn’t know what to expect. What I found was an engaged and diverse group of women at all stages of life—from young women considering living child-free, through older women who had never had children on purpose, or who had suffered infertility—the themes of “by chance or by choice”. The meeting was powerful because of the women who attended. They were very open in sharing their experiences, and I believe they found a sisterhood in the unique themes and topics. I saw women connecting, crying, laughing, and teaching each other. It was an amazing day!”

I absolutely love The NotMom. I often feel very alone in my childfree status, so it's been tremendously helpful to read the articles that are posted. I'm beginning to feel more confident in my choice and embrace it rather than question it.


Still coming to grips with the fact that i will never bear my own children....and it is still very much a struggle. I have to keep reminding myself to take it one day at a time...that it is ok to cry...almost every day....and then i found this site....feels like home. Thank you for creating this. THANK YOU!!!!!



“As a Mom, I think your blog is incredibly important for women who choose not to have children. Moms are already supported and accommodated in so many ways by organizations, blogs and media. NotMoms have so few community spaces to discuss their decisions and find support. Good for you for providing this! 






Im so happy that I just found this site. I’ve been looking for a place where like-minded women gather, where I don’t have to feel so dang alone all the time.”



I follow and enjoy this blog because it is one of the few places that really does try to build

bridges between the childless and childfree and not treat us as necessarily "opposing" groups.



Melanie Notkin, founder, Savvy Auntie and author of Otherhood: Modern Women Finding a New Kind of Happiness: 

“The NotMom Summit balanced experiences so that everyone felt included and valued. Congratulations on bringing so much joy to so many women.”

Laura Bennett, CEO, Embrace Pet Insurance:

“We are always looking for ways to reach our target market – childless women with pets – and The NotMom Summit offers a unique audience we hadn’t been able to reach in such a specific way.”

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