Ever since I began working on The NotMom in 2012, my interest in women without children by choice or by chance incuded the ones I dubbed NotGrandMoms --older women living within a different space of nonparenthood. At my conferences in 2015 and 2017, I added panels of these women because their sttories were very different from those of us younger than 50. The comment they each shared was that they were feeling the same things they'd felt in their 30's. Their girlfriends, now g